Dealing with rejection
If you follow me on Instagram you will have probably seen the many stories saying I’ve been rejected whether it's a TC,vac scheme, paralegal job .... If you don’t follow me here a chance for you to do so!
I know as a law student trying to enter the race for a Vacation scheme/Training Contact is very scary and can bring up sooo much self doubt and I guess ‘imposter syndrome’.
I am really not a fan of the term but I do relate to the concept sooooo much, I’ve never been 100% confident in my abilities or experiences, but that is a whole different topic to go on about!
If you’ve reached this point you are probably wondering what’s the point of this post, well to put it simply getting rejected whether it’s from your dream firm or something completely different - it still hurts a lot!
So here are my top tips which have got me though this season of applications and all rejections I’ve faced.
1. Cry, laugh, feel angry and frustrated but remember it’s part of life and wasn’t meant to happen right now.
It’s cliche I know but it’s so blooming true. I literally cried like a baby for a good hour because of the rejection emails,’failing’ a completion and just generally feeling overwhelmed but I am glad I did because it allowed me to move on and create new plans!
2. Evaluate and reassess.
Make sure that you’re doing everything you possibly can do to be your best self, maybe X wasn’t the best thing for you but because of X you discover Y.
Life’s constantly changing so have one rigid plan might not be the most beneficial things for yo-yo and your goals.
I have taken a step back and reassessed goals and my priorities before stepping into doing a masters/LPC before the new SQE takes over fully. I have current got a full time job
3. Move on...
Honestly the worst but you've got to pick yourself up, take on the feedback and keep going. Ain't no point missing out in life for something that doesn't want to! And at the end of the day you can see it as a lesson and try something else or see it as a reason to keep going! Choice is yours.
4. Pour into your cup
At the end of the day no one likes rejection of any sort so you've got to find a way which keeps you sane and stops the dwelling in what could have been! It's important to look after yourself mentally and physically.
